I was thinking about writing love songs as opposed to break-up songs or dating songs.
That led to researching love. First I looked up speed dating because of the notion that we realize we are attracted to another person in a few minutes. Not sure if it is two minutes or eight minutes. Either way, it's pretty scary how we decide to pursue someone within in a flicker of time. Chris' girlfriend Elyse saw him across a gas station and knew at once she wanted him. It just goes to show you that the place does not have to have any romantic cachet. Speed dating led to the concept of Limerance which means the involuntary cognitive and emotional state of intense romantic desire for another person. It is characterized by intrusive thinking about the object of one's desire and can elicit extreme joy or extreme despair. Verliebtheit means fallen-in-loveness. I refer to the german word in honor of Tommy who speaks the language fluently and is quite fond of the german culture.
What is alarming about limerance is that it is similar to obsessive-compulsive disorder. OCD is the name of Christopher's film company. The feelings of limerance are intensified through adversity, obstacles or distance. The constant thoughts about the limerant object define all other experiences. Thus the similarity to obsessive-compulsive disorder. The other thing that I know about this intense form of love is that it can only last for 18 months. The brain is not capable of dealing with this level of emotional cliff-hanging for any longer than that. It's a blessing, because otherwise, nothing would get done. The poor limerant would be in a constant state of love fever.
Ain't it grand!
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